The Intersectional Feminist

This is the mantra of a popular Australian domestic violence page. Read further and you can see their men's rights agenda. They  claim that feminists are to blame for a "DV industry" that makes money off false allegations against men. Feminists are to blame for using DV as a tool to destroy society. It's really mind blowing to read.  This same page recently shared some statistics. Here they are: They're quite acceptable statistics to use, from a reliable source. This group used them to focus on the very high proportion of Aboriginal victims of intimate partner homicide, which is a very worthy cause and I agree that it's a huge problem. But the elephant in the room here is the sex of the majority of victims. Female. 71% in fact. Obviously this is a very small sample and not really representative of the population, so naturally I went digging for stronger data. The other problem with these statistics, is that it doesn't show sex of the offender.

Note: I use the term "he" and refer to men, husbands and male partners, because studies show that the female victim of a male partner is the most common and has the greatest consequences, and let's face it, I'm a feminist centreing women - however this can apply to any sexual partner of either sex. Let's talk about boundaries. Sexual boundaries. Consent boundaries. The times when you can't say no, even when you want to. Sexual coercion and manipulation. Manipulators use tactics like pressure, threats and trickery to make you agree to sex, and even make you believe that you consented. They might be a coworker, your boss, a new date, but in most cases it's the person you're already in a relationship with. In many cases, the sexual relationship has begun consensually, and a change in power dynamics triggers the coercion. But not always. It's been reported that the initial sexual experience for 1 in 16 women is violent rape, while more tha